A male Christian blogger is befuddled over the lack of women kneeling before their husbands and teaching other women to kneel. As is usual online, if it can’t be found via google it must not exist and must never be happening. Or in other words, if women aren’t publicly proclaiming their submission practices, women aren’t really doing it.
“My process is much simpler. I performed a Google search of every blog recommended to me for the word knee because kneeling is the gold standard of submission and reverence. That (should have) found even comments with knee and its derivatives. Then I bookmarked each result. Of them all, only one post contained a reference of one spouse kneeling to another. It was at “A Peaceful Wife”, by April Cassidy”
“In fact none of the female Christian blogs I searched ever mentioned a wife assuming the posture of submission; of her kneeling. There are admonitions for tone of voice, and silence, and just about any other vagaries of action which are only nonchalance disguised as submission.”
There is a reason once upon a time in an alternate universe I used this image as my avatar.
I feel it is still the best image that captures submission because looky there….she is kneeling.
More from the blogger:
“It’s true that one way to define submission is the absence of rebellion, but I was wrong in that women do have to learn to submit. And I do have to learn how to accept it. My mind has put forth to me every kind of excuse against kneeling, but–discomforting or not–the fact is irrefutable that the gold standard of submission is kneeling.”
No, he got it right the first time. Women do not need to learn how to submit if he is leading. From proper leadership comes the natural response of submission and it flows forth with ease. If she has to learn submission or be taught to kneel, she is basically being taught how to be attracted (for lack of a better word) to a man where the attraction does not come naturally.
“Therefore, can we say of anyone who disdains (or even merely eschews) kneeling, that they are in submission?”
They can say whatever they want in their theoretical bubble, of constant drawing and redrawing lines of what submission is; however, dutiful wives know what men online think matters not one whit to what their husband thinks. If a particular woman’s husband does not see kneeling as the gold standard and in fact does not like it, but yet still feels she is submissive–then she is submissive. Done. End of story. Each man sets his own gold standard for his wife and family.
I believe there are a lot more good women out there than the men online believe, we just don’t hear from them because they are the ones dutifully tending to their children and kneeling before their husband.
Oh and lets not forget— in the context of a woman kneeling before a man it can’t be ignored that this is fraught with sexual undertones. Is the frustration of women not kneeling and other women not teaching women to kneel really a frustration that women aren’t being taught to just get down and “suck him off” already.
Afterall, he says:
“Biblical Marriage repeatedly crash on the shoals of questions like this:
- What if my husband asks me to sin?
- What if my husband won’t follow-through on (church, praying, controlling finances, etc.)?
- What if my husband ignores me?
- What if my husband won’t forgive me for my mistakes?
- What if I really need (food, clothes, etc.) but my husband won’t provide it?
- What if I’ve tried everything and nothing works?
Here’s my response from now on: After you tried smiling sweetly, and doting on him, and the silent treatment, and standing up for yourself, and going behind his back, and taking matters into your own hands, and bringing in the pastor: Did you try kneeling before your husband in submission?”
In other words, if smiling sweetly and all those other actions don’t work—did you try getting on your knees and sucking him off?
Really, lets not beat around the bush -a woman offering up her body joyfully and submitting sexually solves a great deal of marital problems and I think the subtle context of talking about kneeling is the fancy “moral” way to say “get on your knees sweetheart and service your man”.