From a man who flies around the Angry Bird nest:
“I’m getting married this Saturday and this video does nothing to give me any assurance at all about my future. My hope should be in the Lord but when I see the tons of men who were badly burnt by marriage (and their rebellious wives), I worry.”
If this man cares about his pending marriage he will stop emerging himself in the negativity of badly burned men. Women are frequently advised to do the same. For women, hanging around a bunch of bitter feminists or man hating women does not bode well for her marriage. It is hard not to succumb to the negativity no matter how determined you are to not get sucked in. Men are afraid to get married not necessarily because of women but because they go around in this circle feeding off each other. They can’t get off the carousel of negativity. A few squeaky wheels with bad experiences keep men in a perpetual state of fear rather than growth. After all, misery loves company.
I have to wonder too if his bride has any idea of his involvement with red pill blogs? Does she know he is hanging around men setting him up for failure with their negativity? For example here is some of the advise he is getting:
You do not have to get married. Chances are you will regret it most grievously if you do get married. Even if you don’t get divorce-raped, you will still likely be miserable in a situation where you have no rights and no respect and no alternatives and no escape. Like the guy above said, you can end your obligation to
your wife but NEVER can you escape your obligations to your ex-wife!!!!”
This suggests he will be “dying inside”….oh wait that’s not a real thing–at least it isn’t when women feel no escape.
“Watch for the 5 pounds a year trick (and 20 pounds for each baby) along withthe slow and (I believe) very deliberate, and almost immediate (as in, ON THE HONEYMOON OR SHORTLY AFTER) reigning in of your sex life.”
Keep your friends. Spend a couple nights a week away from home. Ignore her for 24 hours the first time she breaks the marriage vows (and turns you down for sex). Pray.”
Ignore her? Yup, that will work great. That leads to my next point–communication.
Instead of the advice above, how about this–try communicating with your future wife about your concerns. Wussy men ignore problems, dominant men confront. If a man is too afraid to do that, to be open and honest, then 1) He is weak and will not make a good, effective leader in the first place (but that’s OK because he can blame his weakness on her); 2)He really shouldn’t get married–not because of what the wife may or may not do–but because he simply doesn’t have the balls for it or the confidence in himself to lead his wife and stamp out rebellion at first whiff.
Newsflash: Life, including marriage, involves risk–it is the very nature of being alive. So, men (and women) should be up for the challenge, the adventure, and whatever it may bring –or if totally risk adverse, become a hermit who only comes out of his shell for the rush of being a keyboard warrior. Or be something like this man who says “Me: 45. Never married. No children. No relationships ever. Somehow, I feel like I’m the winner in this new age.” Funny, feminists say the same thing. Dying alone is celebrated by men and women in this new age.