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Women Provoking Lust is a Real Problem, Women Provoking Envy and other Sins–Not So Much

“Recently, I was talking with an acquaintance of mine. She is not a believer and knew about my blog so she asked me about it. She mentioned that she was a feminist. I asked her if she wants to be like a man. She exclaimed, “No! I love it when my husband opens doors for me and grabs me by the elbow to help me across the street.” Concerning my viral post, she responded, “I don’t want my husband to do the housework. He works so hard all day. He certainly does not need to do housework.” {So far, she doesn’t sound much like a feminist!} Later on, she told me about her daughter who sews bathing suits to sell. I asked her for the web page. She told me, “Oh, you wouldn’t like them. They are the thong type bathing suits.” I asked her,”Doesn’t she know what this does to men?” She didn’t know how to answer.”
OK, to start that is umpteenth mention of her viral post. She sure enjoyed the fame. “Doesn’t she know what this does to men”? Let me see, in the past when I have talked about envy inciters (“doesn’t she know what this does to other women”, I often got the response its NOT the problem of the envy inciter or the person inflicting. Its the problem of the one who feels envy, they have a “heart” or sin problem. But yet, when it comes to causing men to lust that is all the fault of the women. The burden of any sin or “heart” issue with the man is rather laid at the feet of women for inciting or inflicting the lust.
“We should know how men think and what can provoke them to lust knowing that lust is not a thing of the Lord. The lust of the eyes is one of the three main sins: the lust of the eyes, the lust of the flesh, and the pride of life. Should we not live our lives with careful introspection to make sure we are living for the Lord and bringing Him glory instead of living for our own lusts and satisfaction?”
Again, if she is going to apply this standard to lust. Then Christian in general have a responsibility to not cause a multitude of other sins in people. Don’t be a stumbling block, right? But they cherry pick what is and isn’t a stumbling block. If you cause women feelings of envy, not your problem. If you cause a man to lust, that is your problem. Lust provokers are a real thing but envy inciters are not. Men are not responsible for keeping their sin and other wrong feelings in check, but women are responsible. As the weaker vessel, not only do we have to make sure our own feelings are sin free, but we have to make sure men and the rest of humanity are sin free as well.
“Make sure they are dressed modestly as children and have a sense of shame in being naked and showing too much flesh to others. No their bottoms shouldn’t be showing out in public, even as children. As your daughters grow older, explain the male sexual appetite so they are well aware of not doing anything to inflame it.”
Let’s also explain to our daughters the female competition drive so they are well aware of not doing anything to inflame it.
“The fact that this woman knew I wouldn’t like to see her daughter’s website means that she knows her daughter’s bathing suits are below my standards. I am glad that she realizes that I have higher standards than most in our culture. Do you? Do others realize that your standards are higher than cultures by the way you live your life and the clothes you wear? If you are a believer in Christ Jesus, they should since we are called to be separate from the ways of the world. We live by godly standards since this isn’t our home. Our home is with Christ and it is far more valuable than anything we have down here.”
Its funny she talks about higher standards and is always on about modesty when there is a photo of her on the interwebz in a plunging neckline dress. Speaking of which, I was thinking last night as watching the Trump women at the RNC, how modestly they were dressed. Melania (absent the modeling days) seems to often have high necklines dresses. Things that make you go hmmmmmm…..
Overall, I am betting this acquaintance of Lori’s will be no more after she sees her post. How to win friends and influence people to Christ? Talk about how their daughter promotes promiscuity and provokes lust in men.
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8 thoughts on “Women Provoking Lust is a Real Problem, Women Provoking Envy and other Sins–Not So Much

  1. insanitybytes22 said:

    “Ha! Than, after 20 years of that indoctrination, the moment you are married, suddenly flip a switch and do everything in your power to inflame the male sexual appetite?”

    Basically.

    And this is actually very much opposed to what LA’s Red Pill admirers want from single young women. They obviously WANT to be inflamed by single young women.

    “This gets to the crux of the problem of the way sexuality is taught within the churchian world. Women are allegedly evil, shameful, lust evokers……and now that my wife won’t have sex with me, she’s obviously just in rebellion. These are unhealthy messages for both men and women. Men learn they are powerless over women and women learn they are the root of all evil and shame. It’s nearly the opposite of headship, of leadership as the bible actually teaches.”

    Right.

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  2. Even the way she describes male sexuality communicates shame, “male sexual appetite….inflamed”, as if they’re animals and have no dignity or choice about how they respond.

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  3. Well, I would have to disagree with you partially — it is pretty much universally understood that men are highly influenced by what they see. But frankly, the message ought to be more to the girls — do you really want to give out that sort of information to all and sundry? It’s more a message of respect for oneself and the fact that you, as a woman, are not for sale — I treat myself with respect and I insist on being treated with respect. And I think we can all agree that clothes do send the message that you respect yourself (or not).

    L.A.’s problem is that she says the same thing over and over and over again, with little variation, and it is always the same message — shame. She fails, in my opinion, miserably in getting her message across in a way in which youth would want to take it seriously. I think you’ll get a lot more girls interested in dressing modestly if you do it in a positive way……the styles good for your body type, the colors that look good on you, and a healthy self-respect. I think that will appeal to girls far more than this constant browbeating and shaming. Sort of like this, “Well, you know, do you want people to see you for your mind and heart and soul, because if you show all of that, your body could get in the way and you will not attract people who will respect you for the person you are, ” or something like that.

    Maybe that’s not the greatest way to say it, but I think you can understand what I’m trying to say here.

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  4. “As your daughters grow older, explain the male sexual appetite so they are well aware of not doing anything to inflame it.”

    Ha! Than, after 20 years of that indoctrination, the moment you are married, suddenly flip a switch and do everything in your power to inflame the male sexual appetite? At least I think that’s the message. Isn’t a bit of lust within the confines of marriage a good thing?

    This gets to the crux of the problem of the way sexuality is taught within the churchian world. Women are allegedly evil, shameful, lust evokers……and now that my wife won’t have sex with me, she’s obviously just in rebellion. These are unhealthy messages for both men and women. Men learn they are powerless over women and women learn they are the root of all evil and shame. It’s nearly the opposite of headship, of leadership as the bible actually teaches.

    Also, while lust may be addressed in the bible, what is actually an abomination to God revolves around haughty eyes, a lying tongue, a false witness that sows discord, innocent blood being shed. So yes, envy, pride, gossip, shaming others to make yourself look better. Lust is actually not simple sexual attraction at all, it is coveting, envy, obsessing over possessing what is not yours.

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  5. “As your daughters grow older, explain the male sexual appetite so they are well aware of not doing anything to inflame it.”

    GAH!

    How to avoid doing “anything” to inflame the “male sexual appetite”?

    Question: how is one supposed to attract a future husband without at all engaging his “male sexual appetite” at all?

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