They are hypocrites. They won’t admit this straight out, but they dance around it by saying “well, I am not perfect”. I get this to a point, but there is something about teaching and being a mentor that implies mastery. If one doesn’t have to have mastered a certain skill to be a teacher, then I think this leads the door wide open for younger women to take on the Titus II role. I don’t want to say you have to be perfect to be a teacher, but at least have a very strong mastery of the skills you claim to teach, such as mastering respect:
“Do I always respect Ken? No, but he will call me on it when I don’t. I will take his rebuke, and learn from it. He does the same with me. When others rebuke or exhort us, we take what they say to heart and decide whether or not they speak truth to us.”
After 35 years of marriage how much rebuking does it take to finally learn for good–respect your husband! Seriously! Do women never master respect of their husband then? If a 35 year married woman doesn’t get it and has to always be learning and re-learning, imagine what a struggle this is for the young, newly married women.
Probably the reason why there are so many godly mentors and Titus II women online is because they can easily speak the truth without having to back it up. I can imagine any woman who tries to start a local Titus II ministry might quickly lose a lot of credibility after speaking one thing and then doing another.