Godly Women · Traditionalist Bird

Let’s be Clear-Only Men have Needs

From Lori Alexander today:

“Marriage takes a lot of work, but even more so, a godly wife must set aside her natural inclination to get her needs met and instead go about meeting the needs and desires of others, especially her husband and children.”

You mean like that need for provision? Here is an idea–how about all husbands quit their jobs because that natural inclination, that need for shelter and food is really just selfish of women.  Perhaps women should be the breadwinner then since they have no needs of their own. See only men have needs and their needs matter greatly. For example, men have a need for sex, if women feel that need, well its just a feeeeeeeeling, they are making it up. Women have wants and men have needs. This should be one of the first lessons in godliness. As much as I despise feminism, its so clear why feminism took off when you see statements such as these.

“Many in our nation has become quite lazy in the last several generation. Women would rather be on the Internet or watch TV than keep their homes clean and tidy.”

Exception– you can be on the internet 24/7 with a blog, facebook, pinterest, twitter, and instagram account if what you are saying is godly. Funny, all I have is a blog. The godly mentor is greatly invested in social media, while assuming that those on the internet must not have a tidy house.

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11 thoughts on “Let’s be Clear-Only Men have Needs

  1. “Many in our nation has become quite lazy in the last several generation. Women would rather be on the Internet or watch TV than keep their homes clean and tidy.”

    Here is an interesting point — I think she gets this from an outdated caricature. In a recent viewing of old “I Love Lucy” reruns, it was obvious that a lot of time seemed to be spent on bridge games, etc., but among the average housewife that was hardly the case. Only the upper class or upper middle class ladies had time for clubs, bridge, the “soaps” and so forth. Obviously for “Lucy” they had those in for the plots, but I strongly doubt the average wife and mother had time for clubs and bridge games. Maybe she listened to the “soaps” on the radio while she was cleaning, but other than that I seriously doubt anybody ever lived in that way. My parents, grandparents and in-laws certainly didn’t.

    And the women today — well, there are the hard-core careerists, there are the stay-home mothers maybe working part-time and there are the full-time all the time mothers who are homeschooling. I have yet to meet one person who watches the daytime soap operas and follows them religiously. It’s hard to imagine that these shows are still on the air…..I recall at one time when my oldest was very young and I watched a few minutes of a “soap” because I was sitting on the sofa nursing — it was pathetic and I thought it was the stupidest thing I had ever seen. The “sitting around watching TV” all day is an outdated caricature which should be retired because it simply isn’t true — it’s just a made-up fantasy used by manosphere men and women and Titus 2 perfect women who enjoy demeaning others who don’t fit the molds they have decided are “right”.

    Internet — well, there you have a point, but only to a degree. Absolutely, would never contest that we waste an abominable amount of time online. Several people who like to publish long, interminable posts about how wonderful they are come to mind……but from the practical point of view, the woman running a home business today depends on the Internet to keep it running, bring in income, and market her products. This enables her to keep the bills paid while staying at home with those children. Let the Titus 2 perfect women think that over for a little while before they write their posts telling us how feminist it is to keep the utility bills paid and enable the husband to have the road trip vacation he would like to have every summer.

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  2. Anonymous said:

    “Note to L.A. — if you meet a child’s every desire, they are going to grow up to be the most spoiled brats on earth. It is good for a mother to say no to her child because she is too exhausted to get up and meet his every need and desire. The child learns to sacrifice for others. I guess that memo isn’t in “To Train Up A Child”, huh?

    “Another note to L.A. — it’s also not good for a husband to have to depend on his wife to meet his every need and desire. He’s an adult and he can take care of himself once in a while.”

    Yeah.

    Plus, what if mom dies or is seriously injured and nobody but her knows how to do anything at home?

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  3. “Marriage takes a lot of work, but even more so, a godly wife must set aside her natural inclination to get her needs met and instead go about meeting the needs and desires of others, especially her husband and children.”

    Note to L.A. — if you meet a child’s every desire, they are going to grow up to be the most spoiled brats on earth. It is good for a mother to say no to her child because she is too exhausted to get up and meet his every need and desire. The child learns to sacrifice for others. I guess that memo isn’t in “To Train Up A Child”, huh?

    Another note to L.A. — it’s also not good for a husband to have to depend on his wife to meet his every need and desire. He’s an adult and he can take care of himself once in a while. Only the ‘spherians are children in adult bodies who can’t take care of themselves.

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  4. Eavan said:

    “I wonder if the men are ever asked if this is what they want. I strongly doubt most husbands wish to have wives with a martyr complex.”

    There is that.

    The blogger who writes as Captain Janeway/Taylor J. has brought that up–that a lot of the time, the husband doesn’t realize that his wife is undertaking this big project of total self-annihilation. He thinks that they’re just having a normal marriage and everybody is having a great time!

    So it can be rather shocking to a guy to discover that his wife considers marriage to him a source of continual suffering…

    But as Captain Janeway points out, that’s because normal conservative religious guys don’t read the books written for conservative women. She had a post with a title something like “the complementarian holodeck” that she pulled (sadly) that talked about how the happy act that a lot of conservative religious women do genuinely fools their husbands into thinking that everything is hunky dory.

    Related: a couple with this dynamic may not have an amazing sex life.

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  5. I wonder if the men are ever asked if this is what they want. I strongly doubt most husbands wish to have wives with a martyr complex.

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  6. Stone said:

    “Aw well that is different. You see, priests are males and therefore have a need for a break. Women, despite being the weaker vessel, are suppose to do it all! I really do find it funny how much we are suppose to give, give, give, but on the other hand we are told we are weak.

    “If you don’t have needs aren’t you basically a robot then, which is really what a lot of men want.”

    Yep.

    I think part of the contradiction is that some people never look at the full list of demands at the same time.

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  7. Aw well that is different. You see, priests are males and therefore have a need for a break. Women, despite being the weaker vessel, are suppose to do it all! I really do find it funny how much we are suppose to give, give, give, but on the other hand we are told we are weak.

    If you don’t have needs aren’t you basically a robot then, which is really what a lot of men want.

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  8. Stone said:

    “If you are constantly pouring yourself out to others and never replenishing your pitcher, obviously you are going to run out of water to give.”

    I’ve occasionally pointed out to the over zealous Catholic motherhood-as-human-sacrifice types that our diocese requires (REQUIRES!) priests to do a five-day spiritual retreat every year. That’s a pretty good benchmark for the minimum of much recharging a person who takes care of other people all the time needs.

    It’s actually kind of arrogant to believe that one is such a special snowflake that one doesn’t have any needs.

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  9. Yes, the oxygen mask is a good analogy. I’ve also been told to picture yourself as a pitcher of water. If you are constantly pouring yourself out to others and never replenishing your pitcher, obviously you are going to run out of water to give.

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  10. insanitybytes22 said:

    “Not to put too fine of a point on it, but any wife and mother who adopts that idea will literally die. You will suffocate under an endless load of other people’s NEEDS.”

    https://blog.jimgrey.net/2014/11/26/things-i-wish-christians-would-stop-saying-joy-means-putting-jesus-first-others-second-and-yourself-last/

    As that blogger points out, that isn’t in keeping with the rule to love our neighbors as ourselves. Plus, practically speaking, there are 7 billion people on earth. It’s literally never going to be my turn if 7 billion people get to be second and I’m last.

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  11. Not to put too fine of a point on it, but any wife and mother who adopts that idea will literally die. You will suffocate under an endless load of other people’s NEEDS.

    I sometimes try to point out the importance of oxygen masks on an airplane. Stewardesses will tell moms when the airplane is crashing, remember to put your own oxygen mask on first, before you assist your children or anyone else. If you don’t, you will soon be unconscious and of no use to anyone anyway.

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