Here is a theory on why women with similar stories online are often treated vastly different. From “The Way we Never Were” by Stephanie Coontz:
“The more women are defined in terms of an ideal myth, for example, the more possible it is for men to ignore or actively abuse women who do not meet that ideal. Thus in the nineteeth century, the cult of True Womanhood was perfectly compatible with the exploitation of female slaves and factory workers. In the twentieth century, a recurring theme in rape and sexual harassment cases has been the notion that if a woman has ever departed from ideal behavior in any way she has no real “womanhood” to be violated or offended.”
Now I am extrapolating of course and not suggesting that treating women differently online is abuse or harassment, yet I think similar dynamics play out on a much smaller, less serious scale. Online there is a virtual “cult of true womanhood” and if you slightly go off the narrative of what a true woman is suppose to be or what a red pill woman is suppose to be, either by your background or by disagreeing, then you are no true woman and therefore can be easily dismissed or trashed. The women who succeed in online forums with men are those very careful of always maintaining their true woman game face, whether then actually are or not.
There are exceptions. Not every woman with a seedy background is trashed for not being a true woman. For example, a woman who comes out of nowhere online with a story about how she use to whore around will be met with angry men saying “yet another carousel rider”, “she will never make a good wife”. However, take a woman who has been around for a time (doesn’t have to be for very long, like leelee), have a good reputation among the men for always being in agreement and you can then write posts about being a whore and be granted the “self aware” pass. She is still a true woman who at least was self aware enough to admit her mistakes.