Lori posts today on the same article I did a year ago. Here is what I originally wrote:
Elizabeth Gilbert now admits that she is a seduction Addict. But wait, how is that bad? There are countless articles about how women should seduce their men, their husbands. Aw, but I know…its A-OK to seduce when its your husband. Addicted to seducing random men —bad. Addicted to seducing husband or significant other– good. Bad Lust. Good Lust.
Much like the controversial definition I pointed out in this post, Elizabeth says:
“Seduction is the art of coercing somebody to desire you, of orchestrating somebody else’s longings to suit your own hungry agenda. Seduction was never a casual sport for me; it was more like a heist, adrenalizing and urgent.”
If desire is naturally there, you don’t need seduction, don’t need to manipulate and coerce. You seduce when you are lacking. When nothing else works to get what you want. Generally, women simply being feminine is enough to spark desire for men. No tricks or frills needed. There are men out there who praise women who talk about seducing their husbands and significant others, but then its often the same men who lambast someone like Elizabeth for doing the same thing. Its all double standards and whether you are on their special snowflake list.
In the end, I suspect seduction will maintain its status as a good thing, but with a warning–just don’t get addicted to it. That was Elizabeth’s fatal flaw. It will be rationalized that is what makes Elizabeth so much worse than other women–she was addicted and let it control her. Other women can’t possibly let that happen, because ya know—NAWALT.
To add to that, another word I see floating around is “intoxicate”. Women are to intoxicate men with love and sex. Its a word with a negative connotation and is not appropriate for healthy relationship. It means to poison or make someone lose control. Its no wonder women and especially Christian women get so confused. They hear all their life sex is bad, bad, bad (before marriage) and they know the proper definition of seduction is bad too. Then after marriage they are expected to just flip the switch and become seducing, intoxicating sex goddesses. A woman who seduces before marriage or outside of marriage is a feminist. A woman who seduces in marriage and her own husband is godly