Right on cue, godly women love to go on about how they are “hated”. They assume disagreement and criticism is hate. One remark against them and you hate them. Just like how some women take a flirtatious comment from a man and call it sexual harassment. Always jumping to extremes. I do not hate Lori, but greatly disagree. There is a big difference. Her whining like a spoiled princess, “they hate me”, does not inure a sense of godliness. If she is the role model of how women and Christians should behave, how can she blame others for “attacking”, when she flings “attacks” right back by calling people “evil, miserable, stalkers, haters, etc”.
April Cassidy (The Peaceful Wife) also has a popular blog and book with very much the same message, but she does not get near the criticism that Lori does. I think this is because April largely chooses to ignore any criticism, plus overall she has a much more pleasant online personality. She holds herself high and walks away. Lori rather feeds and baits her naysayers, eggs them on, stokes the fires. Yet April is a young woman with small kids still. How does she, not being post menopausal (there are those who have said you can’t be a godly mentor until you hit menopause), have such a better grasp on how to handle these things? Lori has written against women who hosts blogs, write books, with children at home, yet she admires April and at least not publicly has denounced her for doing these things. Double standard again.
Anyway, From Lori’s drama screed this morning:
“They follow me even when I comment on another’s blog and attack me there. They seem to know every detail of my life because they know details from every comment I have ever written on my blog. They have nothing better to do with their time than to cyber stalk and speak evil of others.”
All the classic moves are pulled here. All the buzzwords – “attack”, “stalk”, “evil”. You disagree with someone and try to track down what they say for consistency and its deemed stalking. News flash–this is the internet and people can go to whatever sites they want. If possible, I am sure she would love to get restraining orders against some for visiting her site. You put yourself and opinions out to the public. Part of doing so involves disagreement and naysayers. She should be joyous because doesn’t this mean that she is doing God’s work? The more you are “attacked” the more God is on your side. It bothers her greatly that there are some people out there dedicated enough to hold her to her word and call out how inconsistent so many of her statements are. She flip flops back and forth like many politicians.
“I went to the women in the chat room and asked them to write reviews for me about what they know about me and what I teach. Some of them happily did this for me. (If any of you would like to do this for me, I would appreciate it very much.) I know, without a doubt, that this is a spiritual battle.”
Yet a few sentences before that she writes, “I have no idea why Amazon allows comments from those who haven’t read the book.”
So, it is wrong and evil if you leave a negative review without reading her book, but great and supportive if you leave a positive review based on what you”know about me and what I teach” without reading her book. At least that is how this comes across. She is soliciting women in her chat room to defend her, not because they have read the book (being out for only a few days I doubt anyone has had time), but based on what they know about her. Negative reviews can’t be based on what people know about her, you have to read the book to be able to do that! Truly, its not like the book is going to be any different than her thousands or so blog posts anyway. You read most of those and you have a very good feel for her style. She isn’t all of sudden going to champion career women in her book.
If this book isn’t about Lori, not about her becoming famous or making lots of money, it shouldn’t matter so much the negative reviews. If the book is meant to help women, the Holy Spirit will steer them towards the book and her blog and the negative reviews will not alter their opinion.
I can’t drive home the point enough– you can NEVER disagree with a godly woman! Look at the accusations you get when you do. If you do, you get attacked back with accusation of “evil, miserable, live in dark places, nothing better to do, spiritually weak. No criticism is ever valid. Part of “always learning” is being able to handle criticism, not shut it out or shut it down. A lot of the criticism Lori gets today probably didn’t start out so bad, rather it festered over the years as people got more and more frustrated that their respectful disagreeing comments were not posted. I know some women have had legitimate questions and are trying to learn, but if Lori gets the subtlest feeling that she doesn’t know the answer or can defend the position, it is easier to just not publish and rather leave that person lost and frustrated. What Lori is learning via Amazon is this is how the real world works. Outside of her glass house and glass blog, you don’t get to censor others opinions.
These women are 1000 times worse than feminists because they make it so personal. Bringing up someone’s spiritual state, attempting to be God and know one’s heart, presuming to know one’s family situation is what makes it personal. When feminists attack its more sticks and stones. They say those who disagree are “evil, Satan, miserable, not Christian, spiritually weak, they hate Jesus, hate the truth, live in dark places, etc, etc.” And oh “its just soooo sad that they are that way too!” I believe (but what do I know) the proper godly response to the negative reviews would have just been to ignore, but now she has declared war–a spiritual war. Disagreement = war.
So, folks hop on over to the Amazon page to witness a real live spiritual battle in play.