Lori says, “I don’t tickle women’s ears with what they want to hear.” This is a common sentiment among godly women. She goes on to say:
“If someone who is popular never convicts or challenges you in the way you live, stop learning from them. I only listen to those who challenge and convict me because I want to be more like Christ. We will never become like Him if we only listen to those who make us “feel” good and never challenge us to rid our lives of sin.”
My question is where is the line drawn between when a woman feels (or should I say feeeeels in this situation) that someone is challenging her, convicting her, calling out sin versus when she feels or perceives someone is attacking or mocking her? It seems very subjective and can be based on a woman’s mood at the time and/or whether she likes the person as to whether it is seen as challenging/convicting or attacking/mocking. I certainly don’t tickle women’s ear with what they want to hear and I certainly don’t tickle Lori’s with feel good words and buckets of praise. In fact, she bans people who don’t tell her what she wants to hear. The irony. Think about it. Yet there is a double standard again. If it comes from someone who is an approved “godly” it is seen as challenging, but if it comes from an “ungodly” it seen as attacking. How she loves to boasts that she is not one of those foolish “feel good” Christians. No, no, she is way better than that. She is a mature Christian you see, not one of those silly baby Christians.
If Lori doesn’t want to listen to only those who make her feel good, then why cast aside the followers she have that calls her out, why not listen to them and why go on attack mode back with claims that people are evil and clearly hate the Lord and His ways? When a person is already struggling with their faith, saying such things back makes them want to throw the towel in. “Fine, if you think I hate the Lord, why not”? They are suppose to be the mature Christian, the mentor, but all they can do is sling words back to the supposed weaker person. It creates for very bad PR for the Titus II women.
God works through people in mysterious ways and not all of life’s lessons are going to be learned from the obvious sources (the echo chamber). I was once under what I thought was “attacks” by the Free Jinger crowd that follows around Lori, but after years of some serious self reflection and a few humbling events, I realized a lot of what they said about me was spot-on. I was a know it all, self-righteous, snobby bitch (to say the least of it). In fact, crazy to say, Free Jinger and the secular people have done more to challenge me than Christians have and while often they are often sassy and snarky about it, it comes with a more genuine feel than the sappy, fake Christians. If we are to always be learning, growing and challenging ourselves we have to be open from hearing from other sources and really discern and weigh if what they say has merit. This can take years to determine because of course at first anything negative will be instinctively rejected. Surely, most everyone remembers a time when someone said something to them years ago and at the time they laughed. Then one day much later after some event they realize, “Wow, that person was so right, how did they see that?” Often those outside the echo chamber have different insights because they aren’t so deep in the forest.
Truth is Lori and so many of the godly women love to talk this talk about how they are better, more mature, and can handle words that aren’t all “feel good”, but they just can’t (at least not now). Words that don’t make them feel good are written off as being from Satan and those who hate the Lords ways. End of debate. Makes it very easy and clean then not to listen to those people. Casting them off with a brush. They are very big on seed planting if it comes from the right sources, but quick to whip out the bottle of weed killer if the source isn’t perceived as godly.