In debating submission often the argument of “you submit to your boss, but not your husband comes up”. The point is made to show how silly it is that you care about your boss and give him more respect than your own husband. On the surface this sounds good, but the more I have thought about it over the years there is one big flaw. Your employee-employer relationship is not a “until death do you part” relationship. You are not locked to your employer until you die. It is generally an “at will” arrangement where either party can cancel the relationship at anytime without giving a reason.
With marriage, if followed properly, you can never just get out by your own will. It is for life. Jobs are not. There is a lot more incentive on a job to submit to your bosses will, please them, respect them, etc, or else you can very likely lose your job. In marriage there is no overriding motivation for women to do these things because after all he vowed to never leave, cheat, divorce (to never fire you). You don’t just get fired from your marriage as you do from a job (like I said, if you take marriage seriously, otherwise divorce or threatening divorce is akin to be fired). There is low incentive for good behavior. Marriage is for life for better or for worse and if the husband doesn’t like a wife’s behavior, I can see this rationalized as “too bad for him, this is just part of the worse he will just have to deal with”.
Imagine how the workplace would be if employees could not get fired. If no matter how you behaved, there was always job security.I think both men and women would slack off a bit as its human nature. We see this with tenured professors and some government workers. The forever clause to marriage creates a breeding ground for bad behavior because no matter how bad your behavior, you have guaranteed marriage security. When jobs get worse, people often leave them and seek out better opportunities. Do that in marriage and its called divorce and/or cheating. So, of course women submit to their employers much more eagerly and pleasantly. There is a lot to risk if she doesn’t. If she doesn’t submit to her husband, oh well –what does she really have to lose. He is the one stuck” A crappy attitude for sure, but it a logical conclusion on a cost/benefit analysis. If she doesn’t submit to boss, gets fired. Doesn’t submit to husband, stays married, keeps her wife job. I don’t like how the forever nature of marriage can so easily make both men and women complacent.