Forget 42, sex is the answer to life, the universe, and everything.
And traditionalists love talking about it.
Reading the comments here, specifically this one that says sex:
“…supersedes raising kids and evangelizing and everything, for it models our love of Jesus.”
I agree it is incredibly important and is the only thing that separates a marriage relationship from being friends or brother/sister or roomates. However, more important than evangelizing? I am surprised to hear a Christian say this (or am I?).
Its so important yet Christians can’t even get the chance to experience until its too late, meaning once they are married. What if you are like this woman (or could be a man), but don’t have this wisdom to not marry from the get-go (because of family or cultural pressure or thinking the desire will come once married):
“If I marry, I will obey and submit to my husband, but I have never felt sexual or romantic attraction to anyone, so I do not date.”
The thought of sex stops this woman cold.
It is exactly right that such a woman or man should never marry. It would only create a lot of strife and hurt with their partner, but I don’t doubt that there are those out there that feel forced to stifle their true feelings and go through the checklist of what a good Christian woman is suppose to do (i.e. marry, have kids, stay at home, provide sex) to appease family, community, and their biblical role and this is how we end up in the mess of withholding wives and frustrated husbands or withholding husbands and frustrated wives. People just want to feel normal and appear normal and having no or low sex drive is certainly not normal, so they will take up the now common Christian advice of “fake it till you make it” and embark on a marriage that is possibly fake from the beginning. The husbands who are stumped when their appearing high drive wives all of a sudden stops sex may think its just matter of bringing back the spice to the bedroom, learning game, but I wonder if there was really no/low drive all along and she just got tired of playing the “fake it till you make it” game.
Some people were just never meant to marry in the first place or perhaps they can but they have to find another person with same level of drive, if any drive at all. Yet, how can that be sussed out when you can’t try out sex beforehand or even much talk about it (at least meaningfully since you haven’t experienced it)?