“Many women today are spendthrifts. They are continually going shopping and spending money or scouring the Internet for things to buy.”
“We don’t need an expensive college education, the latest fashions, expensive haircuts and manicures, spa days, elaborate vacations, new cars, perfectly decorated homes, eating out often (Americans now spend more money on dining out than groceries), etc. if all these mean we are dissipating our husband’s income.”
Its funny she says these things as just the other week she bought a skirt on sale on the internet. Original price was $70 and I can’t imagine the sale price was much lower than $50. She didn’t bother to tell her readers what that was though. She says we don’t need the latest fashions, but because that skirt is within her husband’s income –well then, latest fashions are just fine, I suppose.
A commenter calls this to her attention:
Whether on sale or not, does not mean its a good deal or frugal. Frugality seems to be defined in that you just stay within your husband’s income. In other words if he makes a lot of money, feel free to shop away because you have a higher ceiling, whether the purchase is actually needed or not. Real frugality is having millions of dollars and still opting to shop at lower end stores or thrift stops because its the frugal thing to do. Just because you can afford say a $70 skirt and its within your husband’s income, does that mean you should buy it?
Lori’s new favorite 1828 dictionary defines frugality this way:
“Economical in the use or appropriation of money, goods or provisions of any kind; saving unnecessary expense, either of money or of any thing else which is to be used or consumed; sparing; not profuse, prodigal or lavish. We ought to be frugal not only in the expenditure of money and of goods, but in the employment of time. It is followed by of, before the thing saved; as frugal of time. It is not synonymous with parsimonious, nor with thrifty, as now used.”
Saving unnecessary expense is key. Is it necessary to buy a $70 skirt when you can get one for $10 at the thrift or consignment store (sometimes of the same brand and quality), despite what your husband earns? Expensive does not by any means always mean better quality either. Isn’t it better to still shop frugally despite what you can afford, so the saved money can go into more important things–medical bills, college education or retirement so your husband can retire earlier?
It it such an incredibly subjective thing on what one considers cheap, frugal, or getting a deal. Lori has also told the story about how she reupholstered her couches for cheaper than new–ONLY $1,500. Now my brand new couch set cost around $1,000 from Ashley Furniture. I would never pay $1,500 when I know I can get brand new for so much less, but in her world $1,500 is considered a deal for something that isn’t even new.
Overall, I think she is sending a confusing message. It seems like “expensive college education, the latest fashions, expensive haircuts and manicures, spa days, elaborate vacations, new cars, perfectly decorated homes, eating out often” are only bad things if your husband can’t provide the money to support them. But this sort of materialism and unnecessary expenses seems to be just fine if he does have the money for them.
There is also this trend out there among the godly women where husbands basically define what words mean. If the husband deems something frugal or modest, then it is and she has full approval to buy it or wear it. It doesn’t matter what you spend or wear as long as your husband approves.
For example, as a side conversation, Lori has said her husband likes her to wear her skirts just above her knees. Well, some other men and women may find that immodest. She shames on women for wearing yoga pants because they are immodest, but perhaps the women who wear them have husbands who deem they are modest just as her husband deems skirts above the knees are appropriate. There was a big discussion recently about women not being stumbling blocks to men by wearing yoga pants. Well, to other wearing knees above the knees can be a stumbling block. And to take it much further down the road some would say any woman not wearing a burqa is a being a stumbling block.