Yet another example of a woman having a hard time being a stay at home mom with a husband who works 12 hours day. She has no support system and he seems to be super critical. This is a woman who is taking off that mask of motherhood a bit and she gets back what I see as a “shut up, suck it up” response. There is some good advice mixed in no doubt, but overall I don’t find the tone helpful. Read all the comments here for full context (just putting in a bit since its all so long):
Is it much less work? What does he do? How do we know? Again, women’s work is never as stressful as a man’s. It seems we judge what is stressful by what work has a paycheck attached to it. If you aren’t getting paid, that sort of work can’t possibly be stressful. Its this competition between who is stressed out more. A man will always live in a woman’s work place yet a woman does not live in a man’s work place. I wonder if she should go to his work would she find a messy desk and what if she complained about that, but of course that doesn’t matter in the same way since no one has to live there. I am not excusing a messy home; however there has to be some give when a woman has to be Jane of all trades, not to mention the supposed weaker sex.
Later in the discussion thread it is suggested that Mrs. M is depressed. Why is it when a woman is struggling a bit or opens up about the REAL challenges of staying at home they get labeled as depressed? I believe this is because women at all costs have to keep up the happy, happy, homemaker, mother and wife role. If you aren’t beaming with joy 24/7 you must be depressed. Don’t forget to smile! Be fake! Smile so he knows you are happy and content, but what if you aren’t? Do men really want their wives to bottle it up and pretend like everything is great. I guess so. Perhaps its best we keep women drugged up or on alcohol to hide all the pain. I recall an article from years ago about some rich housewives who had a xanax addiction to take away the anxiety of their cheating husbands, but hey if it gets you to smile…..
Mrs. M says her husband is grumpy but that of course is because she is a crappy wife with a messy home. If she would just change her ways, his grumpiness would disappear. Yet it doesn’t work that way for women. Right away its “you sound depressed” and this alleged depression or grumpiness on her part can’t possibly be because of something he is or isn’t doing.