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The Magnificent Leap from Shorts to Vagina Hats

Yesterday, Catherine left the below comment on Lori’s facebook page


It was deleted and then reappeared and then finally Lori responded with this snobby response

Eventually this whole exchange was deleted and today she makes a post out of Catherine’s comment, twisting her words.

In response to yesterday’s post about modesty, I received a comment that I want to write about since many women today have views about life that I don’t understand at all. Recently, there was a march in Cincinnati, Ohio where women took off their tops and walked around topless. In the big March on Washington DC, right after President Trump was inaugurated, the women wore vagina hats and bloody menstrual pads. All of this is beyond comprehension to me since I have never had any desire to do any of this. In fact, these things should cause shame and embarrassment in women.

Here is the comment in question: “Yes, that is exactly what some women believe (that they aren’t in any way responsible for men lusting at them no matter what they wear) because women don’t exist solely for men’s eyes. This is not strange. This is progress and empowerment. If you find empowerment in dressing modestly, please do so. I find empowerment in being able to choose to wear shorts when it’s hot outside (not that it’s anyone’s business but mine). I refuse to take responsibility for your or anyone’s husband or wife’s eyes.”

Therefore, all those women walking around topless and wearing vagina hats are doing this because they “feel” empowered and think this is progress. What is actually happening is that they are finding empowerment in their selfishness and pride. In the last days, the Bible states that people will be lovers of themselves and they will despise those who are good. They are doing the will of their father, the Devil, and are caught in his trap. They falsely believe they are “empowered” but they are actually in bondage to their sin and selfishness.

Now how on earth do you walk away from that comment thinking that Catherine endorses and is making a stand for vagina hats? Just because she says she likes to wear shorts in the summer? She didn’t mention anything about the marches or the vagina hats in her comment.  MAYBE she does endorse them, but without it being specifically said Lori is really stretching her words so she can make a point. Brilliant logic – Because shorts it follows must also wear and endorse vagina hats.

Side note on the topic of women causing men to lust by not dressing modestly. On the same token, I suggest we start shaming men for wearing business suits and/or uniforms. I for one find business suits incredibly attractive and yes they do cause lusty thoughts, but I don’t blame them for looking so attractive and can check myself. Once again, those STRONG men are the one’s that need protection and coddling because they really aren’t strong enough to guard their eyes and heart. Time and again I keep hearing about how strong men are, how God made them our leaders and protectors, but also I keep hearing about all the things women have to do to protect them. That women are responsible for man’s sin.

Also, Lori has said Ken likes her to wear her skirts just above the knees, so she does. That is considered quite short as far as modesty goes, so how does she know she isn’t causing all these men to lust by her skirt length? She might think that is modest enough, but plenty of others would disagree.


9 thoughts on “The Magnificent Leap from Shorts to Vagina Hats

  1. Though I would question Catherine’s implicit argument that a woman should choose clothing based on what makes her feel “empowered.” Choosing clothing should have nothing to do with so-called “empowerment.” Empowerment is such a vague concept these days, and for some women, it does include wearing vagina hats. I wouldn’t say that Lori is necessarily wrong for pointing out a connection there, even if Catherine didn’t have vagina hats in mind.


  2. I agree with you, Megan.

    A more appropriate response would be, “I choose clothing that flatters my coloring and body type and that inspires my self-confidence.” This would include modesty, because usually when we dress modestly we are sending the message that we want to be valued for our inherent dignity. We enhance our good physical attributes by wearing colors and styles that flatter us as we are.

    I’d like to plug a great book, “It’s So You: A Lighthearted and Easy Way to Finding Your Own Personal Style” which I absolutely LOVE. Mary Sheehan Warren is the author. I used it in a sewing and fashion class with tween and teen girls. It is the best book I’ve seen to date that balances style and modesty. While we strive for modesty, there’s no need to look like you just stepped out of Little House on the Prairie.

    You also have the right to tell your husband that you are uncomfortable wearing certain clothing, even if he might like it on you. To blindly wear things just because he likes them is not terribly smart — I have yet to meet a guy who necessarily knows a lot about what looks good on various body types and what colors often look best. Fashion and style are not areas in which the majority of men are experts.

    Lori’s writing on this subject is uncalled for considering the scandalous example she gives. She needs to start living what she preaches because she absolutely does not do so. There’s a word for people like that — I believe it’s “hypocrites”.


  3. One time I asked my husband about his rating in regards to modesty. He thought about it, and then said that skirt length was #1, with necklines being #2. The most distracting and disturbing thing were skirts — short skirts, tight skirts. Necklines, he said, weren’t quite as bad — but a plunging neckline that threatened all the time to reveal cleavage is also enough to drive a person batty. But my mother used to make us wear high collars all the time, and he said that was unnecessary.

    When our daughters dance, they wear their skirts right at the knee, since the dance skirts often are short. So our girls wear theirs a little longer than the rest, but they are very full with petticoats and shorts underneath. This way they can participate without compromising our standards.


  4. Anonymous “A more appropriate response would be, “I choose clothing that flatters my coloring and body type and that inspires my self-confidence.” This would include modesty, because usually when we dress modestly we are sending the message that we want to be valued for our inherent dignity. ”

    Yes. The way a woman should dress should be in a way that reflects her dignity. She can dress beautifully without looking trashy. I would even say that dressing in dreary colors and bukly clothing that totally hides her form is also not a reflection of a woman’s dignity. As I wrote in a recent post, feminine beauty is a refection of the Divine Beauty in God. Women get to sort of showcase this divine attribute as a reflection of the beauty of virtue. When she does that, she will most likely and naturally choose clothing that will also not be an occassion of sin to others. I say others because while it can incite lustful thoughts in men, it can also be a bad example to other women, especially impressionable young women who may be inspired to try to look sexy for men if they see that dressing revealingly attracts attention. They may not be wise enough yet to discern that it’s the wrong kind of attention.

    I also don’t think that a husband’s authority means you have to dress in more revealing clothing, especially in public, if he requests that you do so. If you deem a skirt too short or a neckline too plunging that you feel doesn’t reflect your sense of dignity you are perfectly right not to wear it. Remember, the Church teaches that a wife has full liberty that does not deny her dignity as a human person. It does forbid exaggerated liberty that is not in keeping with her noble office of wife and mother so, in my mind, a wife should not dress or act like a hooker any more than a husband should conduct himself as a phliandering playboy. If either spouse is acting in this way, then the other spouse has the right to expect and request that the other stop the behavior.


  5. The word “empower” is definitely feminist owned. I suppose that could be the problem. You can’t say it in conversation without it being assumed you are a feminist. There are certain buzz words that tip people off to your views. As mentioned in comments “self confidence” is a better word but really they mean about the same thing one is just feminist tainted and the other is not. To say “wearing this skirt makes me feel empowered” or “wearing this skirt makes me feel confident” isn’t much difference to me.

    Also to point out that this is another example of a deleted comment that wasn’t really mean or “foul mouthed” it just offered a different viewpoint, but can’t have that (unless it can be used to a make post out of).


  6. Twisting other people’s words is part of being a Titus 2 blogger. She can’t admit that she’s wrong or that Catherine has a point so she goes with deletion, twisting words and intellectual dishonesty instead.


  7. “The word “empower” is definitely feminist owned. I suppose that could be the problem. You can’t say it in conversation without it being assumed you are a feminist.”

    That’s a good point. The word “gay” used to mean “happy”…..my mother has a cousin whose given name is Gay and it’s caused her many a comment for which she did not care much over the years.


  8. On the Lori Alexander Undeleted Facebook page there is a thread where people are posting pictures of Lori’s less-than-modest outfits. It’s very amusing!
    In one picture, Lori is wearing very short shorts (which I dare say are very unbecoming on women her age!).
    In another picture, her younger daughter is wearing a sleeveless top with a plunging neckline. And her DIL appears to be wearing a strapless dress.


  9. Megan, I found it….just look at that. How typical.
    Ken has apparently responded to it in a round about way that I will address in the next post (makes a nice part 2 to this one)


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