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The “Men Have a Higher Sex Drive” Myth

Lori today:

I believe it is more egregious for women to leave their natural function than it is for men since women don’t have the strong and powerful sex drive that men have. Men have ten times the testosterone and just their anatomy and the fact that they are visually stimulated makes it more difficult for them to remain morally pure. This is why women are called to be modest, discreet, and chaste for the good of culture. It is easier for them and when they lose this, all hell breaks lose and culture sinks into all types of depravity quickly.

I am so tired of this Victorian myth that women don’t have as strong and powerful a sex drive as men. Lori can speak for herself and stop assuming that all women don’t have a strong drive simply because men have more testosterone or maybe simply because she doesn’t have a drive herself.  And what, women aren’t visually stimulated? Ugh. I guess I must be a real freak of a woman then. Just their anatomy? What about their penis? Just their penis does what? Seems very freudian to think because men have more of commanding presence to their sex organs, they must be more sexual. Woman’s sex organs are more hidden, so therefore they must not feel as much.

I think this article says it best:

The bottom line is that — newsflash! — it’s impossible to reduce sex drive to a dichotomized stereotype. Some men want sex all the time; some don’t. Some women want sex all the time; some don’t. And there are myriad reasons why each gender may not be interested, and many reasons this desire may be fluid over time.

Regardless of who has the higher sex drive, hormones and visual stimuli should not be used as an excuse for not being morally pure. Because men supposedly have a higher sex drive we are suppose to feel sorry for them. The message comes across as men just can’t help it. They are children basically and it is up to women to remain morally pure for the sake of society. Its just too difficult for them to remain pure, the poor guys!  Men get a pass to blame their hormones, but do women get a pass to blame their hormones when they get overly emotional?

It is up to women to keep the culture pure since we supposedly don’t feel and have nearly the same sexual desires. Another newsflash–for every woman who has a sex outside of marriage there is a man involved also. However, the man is to be forgiven—he just can’t help it. Since the woman has lower testosterone she shouldn’t have felt as strongly as him and therefore abstained. The moral failing is her fault.

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9 thoughts on “The “Men Have a Higher Sex Drive” Myth

  1. My personal suspicion is that these discussions online (or elsewhere) are driven by guys who have unusually high sex drives/are major perverts. (See, for example, Lori Alexander’s male posters.)

    I suspect the average guy is…more average.

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  2. I have a much higher drive than my husband. I have taken up running and PIlates to deal with it since there’s little else I can do. On the positive side of it, I do have a ton more energy and while I don’t have a real weight problem at all, I have lost a few annoying pounds and I am more toned….but the big advantage is the increase in general energy.

    Maybe this was a good thing ultimately as I had to come up with an appropriate solution and this definitely is it…..but it doesn’t take the loneliness away. cc

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  3. When women “become” vile? Is there some point in our lives where Lori does not perceive us as vile already?

    I wonder if it ever occurs to anyone that the reason why we have the libido myth is because women are always being labeled vile for admitting to having any libido at all?

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  4. insanitybytes22 said:

    “I wonder if it ever occurs to anyone that the reason why we have the libido myth is because women are always being labeled vile for admitting to having any libido at all?”

    That’s a really interesting point.

    Step 1: Criticize women for being sexual.

    Step 2: Wonder why women don’t want to have sex with their lawfully wedded husbands.

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  5. Lori says she allows men to comment because she values their opinions, well here is one man’s opinion ( I doubt this sort of opinion though would make it through on her site).
    http://www.patheos.com/blogs/nolongerquivering/2017/08/quoting-quiverfull-men-stronger-sex-drives/#disqus_thread

    Iain Lovejoy • a day ago
    As a man, I do feel rather offended by the suggestion that I am some kind of moral imbecile who by nature can’t help sticking bits of my anatomy into pretty much anything unless “won” by some “chaste woman”.
    Being a Christian who bothers to actually read the Bible, I should also point out that Romans 1 has got rock all to do with some silly notion of women’s “chastity” somehow preserving civilisation, but rather is Paul expressing the belief (rightly or wrongly) that idolatry is corrosive to personal morality.

    See, that is why I would think more men would be outraged by her suggestions. She suggests that men are just helpless in controlling themselves and need the calming effect of women to keep them moral. This is a type of feminism.

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  6. You aren’t vile if you
    1. Have sex with only husband
    2. Have babies (nevermind those who can’t have babies)
    3. Breastfeed babies (nevermind those who can’t breastfeed)

    A woman’s worth, like in the Victorian days, comes down to uterus and vagina.

    Lori says:
    August 11, 2017 at 8:02 am

    Homosexuality is leaving the normal function of their bodies which is to have intercourse with a man, have his children, and nurse them at her breast. This is what God created the female body for and lesbianism is completely opposite and a perversion of what He created women for.

    So are you a homosexual if you don’t have children or breastfeed then? She is so confused.

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  7. “This is a type of feminism.” It is, worse, it is actually a form of goddess worship. Men rendered completely helpless by the supreme feminine power to lead them astray. Men should be disgruntled about this idea, because it portrays them as immoral wildebeests, unable to do anything but hump the sofa cushions.

    It never ceases to surprise me how many of the negative (and false) doctrines within Christianity stem from women’s teachings. Susan Foh in the 70’s or 80’s actually redesigned the whole biblical understanding of “her desire shall be for her husband,” and portrayed it as the curse of Eve,as justification for headship and male authority, male authority no longer stemming from His grace and love, but now as perpetual punishment for the eternally cursed Eve. Ironically of we believe in a permanently vile and cursed Eve, we are basically saying the sins of women are so big, so powerful, they carry more weight than the sacrifice Christ made on the cross. So basically portraying “vile women,” as bigger and badder than God Himself, which is actually feminism and goddess worship.

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  8. insanitybytes22 said:

    ” Susan Foh in the 70’s or 80’s actually redesigned the whole biblical understanding of “her desire shall be for her husband,” and portrayed it as the curse of Eve,as justification for headship and male authority, male authority no longer stemming from His grace and love, but now as perpetual punishment for the eternally cursed Eve.”

    And that’s a really weird interpretation. It makes so much more sense to read “I will greatly multiply your pain in childbearing; in pain you shall bring forth children, yet your desire shall be for your husband, and he shall rule over you” as meaning:

    –childbirth is going to be painful
    –yet you’re still going to sexually desire your husband (“your desire shall be for your husband”)
    –and your husband is going to take advantage of the situation.

    My suspicion is that there’s so much cognitive dissonance going on that people in that exegetical camp can’t even imagine a situation where a woman could sexually desires her husband (as they see marital sex in terms of female duty rather than female desire), so that interpretation doesn’t even occur to them.

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